Monday, May 01, 2006
Me and the girl who made me feel welcome and at ease at her club. Thanks baby!
Went drinking with Buddy at this place call Bliss Cafe at punggol park after shopping. I'm glad that i always have Buddy to count on when times are low.
Would you rather to love or be loved?
Buddy said he chose to love, i chose the same. He insisted that girls should choose to be loved because it's easier to be loved than to love. He insisted that girls are always at a disadvantage if they choose the former. Buddy is probably right and is probably just being protective over me.
To me, girls and guys are the same. If you choose to be loved, how long can the other party give in before he runs out of the energy to give in any further?
Many girls choose to be loved because they want to feel like they are in control of the relationship. They are the leader and they control the feelings of the other party. In this way, when things dont turn out well, they will less sad because they didnt give in so much in the first place. They are the ultimate winner in the game.
For me, i choose to love because i am in control of the relationship. In my opinion, i am the leader as i can choose when to love and when not to love. When things dont turn out well, at least i know i really like that somebody and i have given in my best. If things are meant to be sad, i rather be sad over the loss of someone i really like. What's the difference between a little less sad and sad? It's still sad. To me, there is no ultimate winner in love. Love is a process, not a game. Winning or losing doesnt really matter when u really love someone, does it?