Sunday, January 08, 2006
I cant exactly describe my feelings now..
When my bro told me when i woke up bleary-eyed this afternoon that our cousin's 3 months old baby died. He said that so casually that i was shocked and asked him to repeat it again. 'Er gu called and said that Jian Guo's baby died.' he said.
I called my mom immediately to reconfirm the information received. In a calm tone, my mum told me that she and my dad are going to the crematorium to attend the funeral of the baby. As an aunt, i felt the neccessity to attend my little nephew's funeral. However, due to my mom's superstition that i'm not supposed to attend any 'white' matters' this year, i was forbidden to go.
Although i have never seen this little nephew of mine, i've heard plenty about him from my mum and aunts. Apparently, he was a healthy baby when he was borned. However, due to his extremely stingy father who scrimp and save on his milk powder, he remained very small sized. And most recently when he was brought to my grandma's house for a visit, my aunts saw a burnt mark on the baby's arm which was sustained when scalded from a kettle by accident.
I've never particularly like this cousin of mine since young because since young he is already very stingy and petty. As i grow older, my ugly impression of him never change because of many incidents that prove the point that he is indeed a greedy miser.
I really pity his wife... I've never talked to her much but my impression of her is someone really soft spoken and down to earth. I pity her because she did not even get to realise a dream of every girl to have a proper wedding dinner ceremony when she got married to him. When she was 8 months pregnant, i met her by coincidence and she was going to work on a rainy day. 8 months pregnant leh! Shouldnt she be at home taking care of her health? Even if she's working, shoudn't she be taking a cab or be driven around by a car(my cousin has a car) instead of squeezing with commuters in the bus on a rainy day? And now she has to suffer from the truma of the death of her very first baby.
Whenever i hear complains from my aunts about my cousin's stinginess, i will always shake my head. He even asked my aunt to sponsor his son's milk powder can! I dont understand why he wanted to have a baby in the first place when he is unwilling to provide for him. Mind you, he is financially suffcient!
As i was not allowed to attend the baby's funeral, i went out with the girls as planned initially. I came back home at around 12 plus and my mum waited for me at my lift below my house to accompany me up. Even though i always complain of the lack of freedom i get from my parents, at the moment i was really glad that my mum was with me... She has been with me all this while despite me being wilful and stubborn most of the time. Sadly, my little nephew of mine did not have the privilege of having a really giving parent. I dunno what exactly caused the death of this little nephew of mine but i pray that he will be happy in another world..